By Janet Brooks
Sometimes ehn, the pain can be loud. Your friend said something, did something, or maybe didn’t show up for you and now your chest just hurt. First thing your mind says? “I’m about to callar fren.”
But wait small. Not every hurt needs a full cut-off. Some situations just need understanding, space, or a real conversation. Before you rush and delete someone from your life, try these:
1. Calm Down First (Don’t React in the Heat of the Moment)
When you’re hurt, everything feels bigger than it actually is. You can say or do something you’ll regret later.
Instead of immediately calling fren, take small time for yourself. Sleep on it, listen to music, or just stay quiet.
Sometimes, after you calm down, you’ll even see the situation differently.
2. Ask Yourself: What Really Happened?
Be honest with yourself.
Did she actually disrespect you, or did something get misunderstood?
Example:
She didn’t greet you at school, was she ignoring you, or she was just stressed or distracted?
Not everything is intentional. Don’t callar fren based on assumptions.
3. Talk It Out Like Real Friends
If the friendship means something to you, give it a chance.
Pull her aside and say how you feel, no shouting, no attitude. Just real talk.
You can say:
“That thing you did really hurt me. I just want to understand what happened.”
Sometimes one conversation can fix what silence would destroy.
4. Don’t Let Other People Fuel the Drama
You tell one friend, she adds her own opinion. Another one adds more. Before you know it, everything is worse.
Not everybody wants peace for you. Some people enjoy drama.
Handle your situation directly. Don’t let outside voices push you to callar fren when you haven’t even heard her side.
5. Know the Difference Between Hurt and Disrespect
This one is important.
• If it’s a one-time mistake, misunderstanding, or small issue → it can be worked on.
• If it’s constant disrespect, betrayal, or bad behavior → then yes, you can start thinking about distance.
Every hurt is not a reason to callar fren. But repeated disrespect is not something to ignore either. Know the difference.
Final Word
Friendships will not always be perfect. People will make mistakes, even good friends.
Calling fren too fast can make you lose people who actually care about you. But at the same time, staying in bad friendships is not the goal either.
The key is this:
Pause. Think. Understand. Then decide.
Not every situation needs “callar fren”… but every situation deserves clarity first.
